Instead of asking or demanding for what you want, simply state your goal and ask, ‘How can we make this happen?’
Here are some examples:
‘Can you give me a raise?’
‘I’d like a raise. How can we make this happen?’
‘Can I be your boyfriend’
‘I want to be your boyfriend. How can we make this happen?
‘Can you sell it to me for less?’
‘I’d like the price to be lower. How can we make this happen?’
Why the rephrasing? It lowers the chances of a flat-out rejection. At the same time, you increase the possibility of collaboration on reaching your stated goal; if the other person can’t give you want you want now, it’s easier to negotiate how you can get it later.
Asking ‘How can we make it happen?’ shows guts and diplomacy without seeming demanding.
Try it the next time you want something from someone else.
(Via LifeClever 😉.)